The past couple of days my heart has felt heavy. It seems like in every part of life there is turmoil... yet when I look outside, there is beauty everywhere.
Positive Thinking can be tempting in times like this.
"Focus on the positive!"
"Don't let it get you down!"
"But look at all the good there is in the world!"
These are noble statements... and I had this attitude for many years.
The Think Positive attitude got me into the habit of putting my head in the sand and avoiding painful encounters, experiences, and feelings.
It almost ruined my marriage, caused me to do lasting damage to my kids, and sabotage my business.
Then after some serious wakeup calls (yes, it took a few to pull me out of the delusion)
I learned to see challenging emotional states as sacred experiences.
Opportunities for healing.
I've learned to embrace the anger or grief and use them to learn more about myself, my experience, and humanity.
And when I allow myself to be fully present with the feelings, I...
... It's the projection of the anger that is.
As a modern society, we've lost the art of processing emotions.
We look away.
We push them away.
We push them down.
We learn that they're scary because of the intense projection of others' emotions.
We're confused about what to do with the feelings of others, so we take responsibility for them.
Then when we are pushed to our limits,
When we are triggered,
And the pressure builds,
What we've been storing inside of us rises to the surface.
And without the effective tools and processes, the emotions enter our
Communication with our loved ones, clients, and teams,
Without the tools and processes, our lives become infused with the emotions we carry.
That heavy load on our backs.
And internal organs.
We try to think the emotions away,
We try to punish our emotions away,
And we try to control them.
But it never really works, because the...
When I was stressed out of my mind, first I dealt with it (which meant ignoring it or pushing through)
When it got worse, I sought relief (which meant a lot of breathing, meditation, calming music, or wine).
And then I got sick of the constant battle with anxiety and worry, I sought resolution (which meant releasing the root of the anxiety).
Throughout years of training and practice, I developed the Energetic Emotional Release Technique, which is the basis of everything that I do today.
I use it to help my clients naturally reprogram their beliefs, patterns, and stories so that they can continuously uplevel their relationships and businesses.
EERT is so simple that you can even teach your kids to do it.
Here are the 7 Steps to Resolved Stress:
With kids, it's not necessarily about the thing they're doing -
The school work
The sports/extra activities
It's about their -relationships- with the things they're doing.
What if raising kids isn't about getting these tiny humans to behave and perform a particular way,
but demonstrating and helping them create positive relationships with the important components of their lives?
What was your favorite thing about today/what did you like about today?
What was the hardest part about today?
What were you proud of today?
Amazing how those simple questions create connection and get them to reflect in a productive way and lead to a state of satisfaction and fulfillment.
What do you include in your bedtime routine?
I’d spent 3 years as a stay at home and I couldn’t do another.
The early morning wake-ups
The all-night nursing
The all-day sibling fighting and crying
The obsession with being a perfect mom
I was too deep in a bubble and I had to get out (before I drowned and lost myself forever)
An advertisement for the pottery class I saw in a local newspaper.
I signed up and entered a new world of creativity and exploration that brought me back to myself and beyond my self.
Being creative again unlocked new energies I didn’t know I had and I wanted to explore it further.
A friend recommended Reiki, an energy healing modality that helps practitioners tap into their own Source of power and well-being
And channel it to help and heal others.
Reiki training was less about learning and more about REMEMBERING.
Remembering my innate...
When congratulating a client I almost used the word "head trash" or "garbage" when talking about the stuff she moved through to break through.
The thing is...
What you're moving through isn't trash or garbage. It's not even b.s.
It's just stuff or clutter.
It's just something you unintentionally held onto for too long.
By saying you have b.s., trash, or garbage inside of you, is kind of like saying YOU are b.s., trash, or garbage.
It was a part of you for a part of your life, and it's important to honor that part of yourself and your life.
Be kind to yourself today
I asked my kids a powerful question today...
"What's the benefit of being poor?"
Their immediate response was,
On my Phone Call Walk the other day I was talking with a Vibrant Life Community member about self-sabotage, and how it takes more than just "negative messages" to make someone engage in self-destructive behavior.
Like when a client told me that she never completed projects and had Shiny Object Syndrome because her mom always let her off the hook when things got hard.
Then after some more discussion, she casually mentioned that her mom was a screamer, and punished her for making mistakes.
This is what the human mind does in that situation:
Yelling = rejection
Parents = life
Rejection = "I'm not loved" and "I'm not good enough"
"I'm not loved" = “My life is being threatened, I’m not safe”
(Yes, in the subconscious mind of a child this is...
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